On Friends

 

 

"We know... in a way... the Truth is not found "out there".  You cannot get to This Truth from "out there".  It's the other way around.  The Truth is Inside.  And because it is Inside, and we live outside, for us to realize this inner Truth, we need to "turn".
(Sri Humananda)

 

 

Ah, yes, we speak of friends...  You know, it seems more so that we have 'occasional' friends - friends for occasions – and as the occasion fades, so does the friend.  And so we have drinking friends and gossip friends, the adventurous ones and the passionate ones, and the deep ones.  We also have the righteous and spiritual ones (those that keep us on the straight and narrow, so to speak), and so on, almost endlessly.

 

As we move from occasion to occasion through life and time, we find like-minded individuals to scratch our back for us and we perhaps even return the favor some, and this is then loosely called "friendship".  But, other than for the occasion, it is not a long-term relationship and I don't believe it always should be because the occasion passes for one or for the other, or for both simultaneously if they are fortunate.  We all change sooner or later and our personal direction or pathway – our evolution - is pretty much laid out for us already to some degree.

 

In the meeting of two individual entities there are four items of note; the speed of evolution of each and the direction of movement (pathway) of each.  And each one is usually quite different.  So, over long periods few of these relationships really sustain the pressures of these moving differences, and we come to say "friends come and go".  And they do, and mostly they should. 

 

But while they are there, sharing the same space, direction and time, they are extremely valuable.  We, too, provide these friends with value, and so there is the beauty of synchronicity, albeit temporary, and the mutual filling of needs experienced by both people as truly great and significant, and it is, it truly is. 

 

Misfortune comes into play when one wants to keep such friends (or things or places) beyond their appointed time and make efforts to do so, But that is like being in love with someone who really doesn't care for you at all, and who really wants to be in such a situation?  Yet, there is the romance (the experience of synchronicity) of the relationship - or as it was shared then - which is nice.

 

People don't really like change, so we can sometimes cling with some pain and suffering before finally letting go and "moving on".  From places as well, but it is clearer with those we call “friends’.

 

I suggest the pain and suffering is not always due to the now missing comrade in arms, but in the pain of the self trying to hold itself back to the past on the one hand, while reaching for and longing for the natural evolution which is at hand, urging, pushing ahead with development, regardless of our perceived occasion.  A "time to get out" message from within, so to speak. 

 

If you have a lack of pain for what was it is a 'sign' that you have accepted your evolution - your natural moving on through space, time, and age. 

 

It's a good feeling to be "in" time, as opposed to before it (early and bored) or behind it (late and hurried).  The feeling then is like... I am glad to be home, here home. Or even deeper; I am glad to be home, Here Home.

 

True friends, or what we can call Friends, lead us, or at least keep reminding us, that Home is Here, and that we should really try to get there.

 

 

 

 

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